So What is Self-Esteem…?

By David Power • on April 20, 2009

If as a parent, you want to begin to build and develop your child’s self-esteem it is paramount that you first understand the characteristics and meaning of self-esteem.

The definition of self-esteem is self-perception and is the set of beliefs and emotions that you have about yourself in general. What is true to say, is that self-esteem is linked directly to confidence and your sense of fighting spirit. These are the very components that help each person in life to achieve, succeed and accomplish tasks.

Child psychologists have been able to clearly show that self-esteem starts off early in a toddler’s life. As a youngster you may be able to recall the feelings of achievement when you first stood on your own or was able to open the door for yourself or cross the road without holding your parent’s hand. It is important to underline that one accomplishment and goal attainment leads the way for another and then another until those achievements  become part of a chain of that defines the entire nature of a  person.

However, it is shown that if a child develops low self-esteem, they are more likely to be self-critical and doubt their own natural skills and innate abilities. This leads to a to a downward spiral of lack of action and eventually inertia in the child’s personal success and belief.

In contrast, children that possess high self-esteem exhude clear signs of adventure, boldness and determination to obtain and achieve their dreams. They somehow learn that to fail is to learn and improve oneself, not a sign to give up and stop, the challenges become learning experiences for future success and goals for the future.

Wake Up HAPPY!

David Power

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By Rob Northrup on April 21st, 2009 at 3:11 AM

self esteem to me is knowing that you can take action and be effective, and knowing that if you find setbacks you will be able to plan to get around them.

self reliance. exactly what government welfars programs try to take away from generations of people in the name of compassion.

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By Duane Cunningham on April 21st, 2009 at 5:30 AM

Hi David,

Im kinda with Rob on this one self esteem is knowing that the trail will be littered with setbacks and that its just part of the process!

Agree with the traits that are found in those with low and high self esteem too!

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By Pat Becker on April 21st, 2009 at 5:35 AM

People with self-esteem are more able to continue in spite of set backs. They see it as learning curve and relish the adventure of moving ahead.

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By John Ho on April 21st, 2009 at 2:02 PM

David,

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learn that to fail is to learn and improve oneself, not a sign to give up and stop, the challenges become learning experiences for future success and goals for the future
>

That’s the right attitude and good approach to “failures” which are really lessons in disguise.

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By Sonya Lenzo on April 21st, 2009 at 4:08 PM

I think you are correct that selfesteem starts early. My grandfather was always encouranging me to learn me/to be more. He believed that I could do anything and I adopted that belief fromhim. And I know that’s where my self esteem comes from.
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By JJ Jalopy on April 21st, 2009 at 8:08 PM

I think self-esteem is a core belief in ourselves and the power and choices we have, whatever life throws at us.

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By Pam Schulz on April 22nd, 2009 at 2:52 AM

I agree with Rob and JJ – I think self-esteem is not so much “others driven” – (did mom and/or dad build up or tear down a child’s self-esteem) but rather “sel-driven.” It’s earned as a result of setting a goal and achieving it despite obstacles that may arise. Others can tell me until their blue in the face that I’ve done a good job, but if I don’t preceive that I’ve done my best it does little to build my self-esteem.

Just my two cents…
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By Lisa McLellan on April 23rd, 2009 at 5:53 PM

Self esteem is so important. Sometimes we crush other’s self esteem when we think we are just pointing out facts.

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By Bereavement, Divorce, and Grief Counseling and Support, Henderson, Las Vegas, NV, Nevada on May 6th, 2009 at 8:20 PM

Indeed developing a child’s self-esteem and mirroring emotions and feelings for them to be full human beings is so important for parents to do. Your hypnosis expertise in helping them to do so is superb, David.

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By Stages of Grief, Widows Bereavement Support, Pet Death, Orange County, Newport Beach, Fountain Valley, Costa Mesa, Huntington Beach on July 17th, 2009 at 6:34 PM

Often after the death of a loved one, a griever’s normal state of self-esteem is completely shot. They are coping with the death of a beloved spouse, mother, father, pet bereavement, widow or widower bereavement. Many of them will describe the physical feeling of the emotion as something like being punched in the gut. They are nearly doubled over in a physical and emotional agony.

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By Online Dating Sites Reviews on July 19th, 2009 at 2:44 AM

Hi David,

THank you for providing such a clear and helpful definition of Self-Esteem. Certainly, without it and some kind of cheering squad or coach, we don’t achieve the accomplishments in life which we desire. Some singles feel like after a divorce or being widowed, and some singles in their 30s in the Single NEver Married category often feel a bit dejected after awhile. The best thing they can do in conjunction with some hypnosis work to build up their self-esteem in their subconscious mind it to get out on some dates and actually EXPERIENCE new great dates as well.

With the review work I do as an online dating coach, I provide them with some of the resources with internet personals and online dating sites review to help them do JUST THAT! Because, really, there are a LOT of categories of singles to choose from. Which sites best fit your dating needs? Are you a single over 50? Baby Boomer Dating Sites, African-American, Latino seeking love, Asian Dating, Christian Dating, Jewish Dating as well as Interracial Dating and some matchmaking options. Single men and single women certainly are looking for the guidance and help!

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By Lisa on October 6th, 2009 at 10:07 PM

I’ve been thinking about self-esteem lately. I have a friend who is currently going down a crisis induced self-discovery path and she believes many of her issues are due to a lack of sense of self. At the same time, she is high achieving, but doesn’t really believe in her true attributes.

Self-esteem is such a vague notion to me. I remember when I was young and told in class that some people are built with higher self-esteems than others and that by that accord, whether or not they achieved anything, they still felt good about themselves. I’m not really sure where self-esteem derives from, is it innate or a product of environment? Most people would say a mixture of both, but I wonder to what degree.

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