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How to Sow the Seeds of Self Esteem with Positive Parenting…

So, if self-esteem is so important how do you begin…? well here are several tips on how you can foster high self-esteem in your children as a parent.

Proactively Positive

Be aware of some of the comments you might say out loud as expressions as they might be perceived as commenting on people in particular. For example if you say something negative following something you child failed to do or after an event they took part in such as ’stupid, or ‘fool’  they may absorb this as personal tag.. Take note, that children are easily influenced by the words you say around them as parents, so attempt to be as proactively positive with your kids as possible, offering them praise for their achievement no matter how simple or great it might be. I always think of the phrase, ‘ try to catch them when they are being good’.

Good Role-model

Being a good role model helps a child feel like they have someone to follow and values to follow. If you set a good example, the children will always look up to you, therefore it is vital that you aim to act appropriately whenever they are around. It is common for them to mimic  you, your behaviour and deeds, so be make it a priority in your week to be setting out good examples. Furthermore, parent involvement can make the child feel part of a secure family unit and an important part of the household leading to a high self-esteem as a whole.

Affectionate

Children need to be loved as well as nourished with moral and emotional support, remember that for high self-esteem to root in your children they need to kow that they are unconditionally loved.  If a child for whatever reason begins to perceive that they are not loved or cared for by their parents, then they might start wondering who else near them doesn’t care, which may make them feel insignificant and worthless.

Praise

I believe that it is a parents mission to look for appropriate situations whereby they can give praise to their child whenever possible, be it for good deeds or  for the achievement of a goals.  For example, if your chuild fails a sporting competition or a science test, tell them that you are proud of them and that they have done their best as opposed to putting undue strain on their self-worth by saying that they should have done better.

 A Home

 

I firmly believe that a child need to know that they have a home which provides security, a source or nurturing and love and evenmore, a place of sanctuary from the dangers of the outside world. A good example would be to ensure that you and your partner do not stage regular disagreements in their presence. Researchers have discovered that children who are witness to ugly encounters can become depressed and withdrawn in early life leading to spouts of low self-esteem and a lack of self-confidence.

 

Practical Parenting requires a lot of energy and effort most of the time, howeve if you do feel that their are any real issues and problems you just can’t seem to solve, seek out qualified and professional help for parenting advice such as a family councellor or child psychologist to assess your child’s needs.

 

Wake Up HAPPY

 

David Power

 

Medical Hypnosis Expert and Practical Parenting Expert 

 

 

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