How Good Parenting can Tame Temper Tantrums…!

Parenting help for parenting toddler tantrums

Thankfully, there are many easy and practical ways in which parents can  deal with a temper tantrum outburst.  Strong  parent advice is to follow these practical parenting steps and make sure you remain firm and in control. Furthermore, you need to be the adult at all times and not manifest one of your own tantrums, such as hitting, spanking or shouting at your child during such episodes  as this will not prove to be productive. What you will only be doing is creating triggers and anchors for your child to throw a tantrum even more and cry and yell even louder.

If you discover that your child’s  negative behaviour is merely a way of just getting attention or obtaining something, then refuse to give in to your child’s demands. I know sometimes when you look at your own youngsters they seem so small and innocent, but remember not to underestimate them. If you keep giving in to each and every whim, you may foster the idea that all the toddler has to do to when he or she wants something or someone to do something is to throw a tantrum at will.

When the moment arises and for no apparent reason your kid has  a temper tantrum then just place your child in to a room or in to his/her cot, where they are able to kick , scream, yell and cry for as long as they choose ,safely!  Allow them to vent their frustration freely without you becoming the angry parents we are so common to hearing about.  After a few moments, your child will come to the realisation that there really is no reason to carry on with this type of behaviour and will soon want to change the activity. I fully appreciate that it may prove to be upsetting or just plain annoying to you to hear your toddler acting in such a way, but please persevere and endure it, in the long haul it will be worth it.  If you place you kid in to a separate room, close the door temporarily until their crying ceases and they tire of this attention seeking.

If for what ever reason you are unable to leave you kid alone, whilst they are having an  outburst, a good parenting style is to be indifferent and just move away from them. Whilst responding to this form of behaviour do not lift a finger or attempt to comfort them. Furthermore, do not make eye contact with your child during their tantrum whatsoever. Moreover, if you are in a public place such as a park or in a shop, calmly and with ease take your child back to the car or get off at the next bus stop. If in the car but your little darling in their car safety seat, belt them up and allow them to simply vent their disappointment and annoyance inside. This is a way of not rewarding the behaviour but showing disapproval of it.  You can also choose whether you want to remain inside or step out of your family vehicle during the outburst. Warning!…never do this when the weather is very hot as your child could become dehydrated rather quickly, make a fair and reasonable assessment of the weather conditions.

Well, what about, yes you’ve guessed it, whenyou are in a long queue somewhere in the shopping centre or at the supermarket and out of the blue you are confronted with an extra special episode of the temper tantrums…its simple! just let your child have their moment and do not try to pacify or comfort them. You may learn that your kid is smart and has banked on the fact that there are other people around you to get excactly what they want. The best thing is to remain self-confident and self-assured, ignore the unhelpful and nasty comments from others around you and the angry glares of the people in the queue…the world is full of so called ‘professional parents’ who always think they could do so much better.

Once the incident has passed by, kneel down to your child’s level and talk to them, stressing to them what they did was wrong and unacceptable, emphasizing just how you would like you child to behave in the future in a similar situation. Remember, youngsters do understand what their parents are communicating to them on the whole, so speak to them in a gentle, calm and patient manner. Education is the key here…teach your child to get in to the habit of saying” Mummy or Daddy, I’m angry/I’m upset!” whenever they feel annoyed or frustrated.

When do parents seek professional help?

Certainly, there comes a point when each parent begins to realise that they need to seek professional help and advice, especially when after taking all the appropriate measure and steps your child repeatedely responds in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable and uneasy over a period of time. Additionally, if your child hurts themselves or starts to be destructive such as throwing objects amid their tantrums, then it is time to get professional help straight away.

Sometimes, tantrums can also be mistaken as regular crying sessions, when the child could not express unbearable pain or discomfort. He may be feeling ill, so check the body temperature for any indication.

Children are born with tantrums. The best way parents can deal with the situation is to be in control. Remember that when your child throws another temper tantrum.

David Power

Expert in Hypnosis, Success Thinking and Practical Parenting

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