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Practical Parenting Expert Discusses How to Help Build Self Esteem in Children…!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

                                                                                                                                                                            

Working as a secondary teacher for several years, I have witnessed the affect of poor parenting on  teenage children, often resulting in  low self esteem, personal and academic under achievement and in a few cases unexpected and unruly behaviour. Is this just something we have come to expect in a modern twenty first century society, where there are so many demands, choices and expectations of children from the media and their fellow peer groups ?  So much so, that a child can be overwhelemed, unable to focuse on the priorites of life as an adolescence such as learning, laughing and feeling secure. Furthermore, the fear as a parent not to be good enough,   uncertain of what direction or actions to take in a world of unlimited advice can seem over-bearing, sometimes the pressure on adults to be a successful parent can lead to both child and parent encountering spouts of under-confidence and low self-esteem.

The growing up stage of a child’s life is so important as it is formative and will determine the overall characteristics and personality of the youngster  in later life. It is this reason at least why children need good and healthy self esteem to flourish and grow during their childhood as much as possible. Why though? because it usally tends to be the people who had strong self esteem during their childhood, who seem to enjoy success when faced with setbacks, conquering the many chanllenges of the modern world.

Children who experience low self esteem appear to become self-critical, withdrawn, sometimes depressed and passive in their nature. It is low self- esteem that can apparently transform kids in to anxious, frustrated and bemused young people, confused on how the world operates and works. Consequently these children become societal problems, depriving and sabotaging themselves from opportunities in life that may come their way.

Therefore, in my opinion it is the postive and powerful role of parenting that can ensure  a child lives a successful life, learning from their parents that confidence is something to embrace not to fear, that feeling happy is a good thing to experience and share. One of the earliest examples of hypnosis in life is the interaction between a mother and her child, as it is then when the child is so very open to suggestions and influence. When a child hurts or injures itself and the mum says “don’t worry, Ill kiss is better, the pain will go away”, the youngster will immediately accept the suggestion and forget about the pain. Another good example is when a mother or father rocks their child to sleep, this is a form of hypnosis and that can and does have a direct impact on a child’s sense of security when they are older.

It is clear to me that for a child to have a sound sense of self esteem and enjoy success in many areas of their lives, they need some solid structure,  some practice at working in a team (together), the creation and development of routine, some postive attention and the setting down of definite boundaries. This can only be achieved with the intervention of parents who are emotionally and phsically involved throughout their children’s lives, by  adults who practices practical parenting on a daily basis.

Wake Up Happy

David Power

Expert in Hypnosis, Success Thinking and Practical Parenting

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